Everyone loves to win but hates to lose. It is part of being a human being. As kids, we learn that the world does not stop if you do not win. Fifteen minutes after the game, we have learned to forget all about it and to get on with our life. It is one of the reasons I like kids to play sports, because they learn not to win every time, despite their best efforts.
Molly is five years old and is learning not to get upset if she does not win a game. She loves to win and gleefully beats you in a game of Candy Land, but when she is not winning, she has a hard time. It is a difficult concept, that of not winning every time, but it is an essential skill. Bit by bit, she is mastering control even though it is difficult for her.
The first game she lost she was very cheerful and told me to get ready for her to win the next game. After the second loss she was still hopeful but in the middle of the third game, when it appeared she would win, she was sent back almost to the beginning. At that point, she suggested that we go and look at her Care Bears. She kept her good attitude, but it was running thin, so she wisely stopped playing. These control mechanisms are difficult and you see them right at the surface with the five year old. Nothing hiding back. She wants to win every game. But she is learning, right before my eyes.
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