The most difficult of being a care giver is a bit similar to being a parent. When is the patient ready to start looking after themselves? Ken is able to get around the apartment very well. He has no shortness of breath when he walks to get a glass of water, he showers himself without help, he even makes the coffee. So why I am asking him if he wants his medicine has more to do with habit than necessity. Many years ago I caught myself tying Andrew's shoelace, well past the time he was able to tie his own. Clearly I was in the habit of looking out for his care,although he was able to looking after himself. Fortunately, Ken does not like to be fiddled with so he is ready to pick up his old roles. But the habit of providing for and watching after is difficult to know when the role is over. I guess the answer is to be sensitive and stop hovering.
Tonight we went to dinner at a new restaurant in Puerto Vallarta, 'El Arrayan', and it was a keeper. No Texmex food at all. Charming decor and wonderful food. We'll go there again. Friends from Bethesda, Diedra and Tom Woods were there too. They are good friends of Andrew and Christina, and they have been to the farm several times. And I look up at the restaurant and there they are. It's an amazing world we live in.
Ken went two long walks today and we did not take the wheelchair. There's another first!!
look up and in Mexico we see them.
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